Am I Wrong?
“You love me. You complete me. You hold my heart in your hands.” ~ Keyshia Cole
Ok, I’m just gonna put this out there - I hated Keyshia Cole’s latest cd, “A Different Me”, so after that first preliminary listen though, I haven’t paid too much attention to it, except for a few (3) songs that played on my ipod. So today, when I saw VH1 Soul playing her new video for “You Complete Me”, I watched it instead of turning immediately or ignoring it on the net like I have been for the past couple of days. And let me tell you, this song has completely pissed me off to no end. *ugh* First, Keyshia sounds so needy and whiny and so thoroughly desperate to be in a relationship that it doesn’t matter what type of dude she’s with..just say that you love her and call her your girlfriend so she can stop singing, please! She’s singing about some man completing her, how she’ll give him anything as long as he stays around for forever...but umm, Keyshia? Isn’t love supposed to be reciprocal? Shouldn’t both of you feel the same way about each other, and not have an unbalanced relationship? Second, and most importantly, the underlying theme of this song is that she isn’t enough and needs the love of a man to complete her...huh?!? (just typing that made me angry..) So it got me to thinking, is love supposed to complete you (as Keyshia’s songwriter so eloquently put it) or are you supposed to be content and happy with who you are, and love is just meant to enhance and accent your already all-around fabulousness?
Think about it - if true love completes you, then you are admitting that you are not enough alone. All that you’ve accomplished, everything that you’ve learned, that you’ve been through, is for nothing. What you’re saying to the world in a nutshell is that you aren’t shit if you don’t have a man. So, is your life over if you’re single? Should you be out in the clubs in something tight, two stepping hard as hell on the manhunt, or on match.com, desperately trying to find that 1 person out there that’s meant to be your other half? Should you just take any ole dude that comes along, hoping and praying that he’ll be the one, in an attempt to make yourself feel “whole”? What if that man leaves after a month, or a year, or 10 years? Do you have to go out and find another man to complete you, because you just aren’t enough with a guy? What about your self esteem? What about you? Do I have it wrong? Is love just about the other person, and how they’re so great that you as a person seem to just melt away?
Or..
Should you look at love as something that’s meant to enhance your life? As a single person - you have your interests, your career, your family & friends, schooling and life lessons - all of which has shaped who you are. What you’ve become. The things that you’ve accomplished, the trials & tribulations of life that you’ve overcome, should be celebrated, not made light of. You should feel proud of yourself, your self-esteem should be high enough to realize that you, and you alone, are amazing and that any man would be lucky enough to have you - not to complete you. Shouldn’t you already be enough? A prize for someone to win? Why would you even consider putting yourself down by admitting you’re nothing without a man, when you’ve accomplished so much without one?
I don’t know, maybe I’m wrong in my way of thinking. All I know is that I’d hate to feel like I wasn’t enough for anyone. I’ve been there, done that - and that insecurity will eat away at you and poison the relationship until it withers and dies. (note to Keyshia - is that what really happened between you and Jeezy??) Besides, the only person that you can truly depend on is yourself. If you put that burden completely 100% onto another person, they’d definitely crack under the pressure, and end up leaving you alone, so you’d end up with yourself anyways. I’d rather believe that love is meant to accent my life - make my sunny days a lil brighter and all that - instead of falling into that “please complete me” trap. *shrugs* Maybe its just me, but I’ve always thought that you have to love yourself completely before you could ever love anyone else. And maybe that’s the key - the only love that should be complete is the love that you give yourself, because without that, how can you truly know what love is anyways?
(ps.. I hope Keyshia finds that love within herself, and stops *allegedly* stalking Jeezy. Obviously lil mama, he does NOT wanna complete you.)
Soundtrack of My Life:
You Complete Me ~ Keyshia Cole
I Need Love ~ LL Cool J
Love ~ Musiq Soulchild
Love Is f/Brian McKnight ~ Vanessa Williams
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