Slaughterhouse ~ Microphone

If you love hip hop, there's no way that you won't love this song..
4 Talented MC's, a crazy beat..a microphone's all they need.
Get into it, dammit.

Thursday, January 29, 2009

Lil Wayne & Katie Couric

Am I the only one wondering why Katie's interviewing him??
Or why he keeps calling her "Miss Katie"?
Wouldn't Barbara Walters have been a lil more gangsta?

I'm just saying..

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Katie Couric's "All Grammy Special" is on CBS on February 4, 2009, at 9 pm.
I will most definitely be tuning in to see the drunk & high ramblings of Wayne..

oh...the fukkery that is becoming 2009.


Am I Wrong?

“You love me. You complete me. You hold my heart in your hands.” ~ Keyshia Cole

Ok, I’m just gonna put this out there - I hated Keyshia Cole’s latest cd, “A Different Me”, so after that first preliminary listen though, I haven’t paid too much attention to it, except for a few (3) songs that played on my ipod. So today, when I saw VH1 Soul playing her new video for “You Complete Me”, I watched it instead of turning immediately or ignoring it on the net like I have been for the past couple of days. And let me tell you, this song has completely pissed me off to no end. *ugh* First, Keyshia sounds so needy and whiny and so thoroughly desperate to be in a relationship that it doesn’t matter what type of dude she’s with..just say that you love her and call her your girlfriend so she can stop singing, please! She’s singing about some man completing her, how she’ll give him anything as long as he stays around for forever...but umm, Keyshia? Isn’t love supposed to be reciprocal? Shouldn’t both of you feel the same way about each other, and not have an unbalanced relationship? Second, and most importantly, the underlying theme of this song is that she isn’t enough and needs the love of a man to complete her...huh?!? (just typing that made me angry..) So it got me to thinking, is love supposed to complete you (as Keyshia’s songwriter so eloquently put it) or are you supposed to be content and happy with who you are, and love is just meant to enhance and accent your already all-around fabulousness?

Think about it - if true love completes you, then you are admitting that you are not enough alone. All that you’ve accomplished, everything that you’ve learned, that you’ve been through, is for nothing. What you’re saying to the world in a nutshell is that you aren’t shit if you don’t have a man. So, is your life over if you’re single? Should you be out in the clubs in something tight, two stepping hard as hell on the manhunt, or on, desperately trying to find that 1 person out there that’s meant to be your other half? Should you just take any ole dude that comes along, hoping and praying that he’ll be the one, in an attempt to make yourself feel “whole”? What if that man leaves after a month, or a year, or 10 years? Do you have to go out and find another man to complete you, because you just aren’t enough with a guy? What about your self esteem? What about you? Do I have it wrong? Is love just about the other person, and how they’re so great that you as a person seem to just melt away?


Should you look at love as something that’s meant to enhance your life? As a single person - you have your interests, your career, your family & friends, schooling and life lessons - all of which has shaped who you are. What you’ve become. The things that you’ve accomplished, the trials & tribulations of life that you’ve overcome, should be celebrated, not made light of. You should feel proud of yourself, your self-esteem should be high enough to realize that you, and you alone, are amazing and that any man would be lucky enough to have you - not to complete you. Shouldn’t you already be enough? A prize for someone to win? Why would you even consider putting yourself down by admitting you’re nothing without a man, when you’ve accomplished so much without one?

I don’t know, maybe I’m wrong in my way of thinking. All I know is that I’d hate to feel like I wasn’t enough for anyone. I’ve been there, done that - and that insecurity will eat away at you and poison the relationship until it withers and dies. (note to Keyshia - is that what really happened between you and Jeezy??) Besides, the only person that you can truly depend on is yourself. If you put that burden completely 100% onto another person, they’d definitely crack under the pressure, and end up leaving you alone, so you’d end up with yourself anyways. I’d rather believe that love is meant to accent my life - make my sunny days a lil brighter and all that - instead of falling into that “please complete me” trap. *shrugs* Maybe its just me, but I’ve always thought that you have to love yourself completely before you could ever love anyone else. And maybe that’s the key - the only love that should be complete is the love that you give yourself, because without that, how can you truly know what love is anyways?

(ps.. I hope Keyshia finds that love within herself, and stops *allegedly* stalking Jeezy. Obviously lil mama, he does NOT wanna complete you.)

Soundtrack of My Life:
You Complete Me ~ Keyshia Cole
I Need Love ~ LL Cool J
Love ~ Musiq Soulchild
Love Is f/Brian McKnight ~ Vanessa Williams


Saturday, January 24, 2009

Sign 'O The Times

Technology has truly turned the dating game on one helluva axis. Hell, I'm under the assumption that its truly fucked it all up to be damned. With the inventions of myspace, facebook, email, text messaging, picture mail, google and online dating (*whew*), navigating the hallowed halls of dating and relationships can be quite confusing for even the most experienced of us. And its become even easier to misconstrue a facebook/myspace message or relationship status, or even a simple text message, all because we read so much into them - wondering, "does this mean what I think this means?".

Case in point - before, folks used to give out their number and wait for the receiver of that number to call. That used to cause a lot of waiting by the phone, wondering if so-and-so would call..Either they would or they wouldn't, and the story would move on. Well now? When you meet a person, they may ask for your number first, but more likely than not, they're asking if you have a myspace or facebook page!! Why? So they can befriend you - and see what you've written on that page, your blogs, your pictures and your friends (or the lack thereof..). And if that fails, they can always google you to dig up dirt about you! Some folk (if you don't already know this) decide whether or not to fuck with you, or how they're gonna characterize you (wifey material/jumpoff) just off of that alone! (And I'm not even gonna talk about if you have those pages non-private, because that's just opening up another slithery can of dating worms...)

Also, with myspace/facebook/twitter, its sooooooo much easier for a person to either: a) stalk the shit out of you or b) ignore you completely and wonder what's wrong with you and what you possibly could've done wrong to them. The 1st one, stalking, is self explanatory but kind of ties into the 2nd one, as does self-esteem. How many times have you met someone, went out on a couple of dates with them and then they just disappeared - not answering your calls, texts or emails? In the old days, you'd block your number and call their house, or if you were really kooky, you were one of those drive-past-their-house-on-some-late-night-seek-and-find-mission, remember?? Well, what's most folks logical next step nowadays? If you guessed myspace/facebook/twitter, then you've guessed correctly. With these, you can see if they've logged in recently, if they've updated their status or page, their comments, if they've twitted lately or if (God Forbid) they've deleted you from their friends list. You can literally drive yourself crazy, cyberstalking someone, wondering all the "what ifs" and "whys" - especially if you can (virtually) keep track of their every move everywhere that you go.

My problem mostly lies with some folks who take the punk route - and their 1st convo with you (after that 1st initial meeting) is a myspace/facebook/text message..What part of the game is that? I'm not gonna go back and forth with ANYONE for longer than 5 minutes in any kind of messaging service, just because you wanted to take the "easy" way out to contact me. Man the fuck up and call me! Hear my voice and let me hear yours! Besides, when we talk on the phone, we avoid some of these dreadful miscommunications that can happen through messaging.

Now, I know that I'm not the only one this has happened get a text message during the day from whoever you're crushing on and you're all excited. The convo starts out innocently enough, but then somehow, everything goes left, all because 1 person misunderstood what the other was trying to say and took offense to it. Guess what folks, that ish wouldn't happen if you picked up the damn phone! You can hear and know when someone's joking or when they're serious by the inflections in their voice - their tone - something that no messaging service can ever replicate.

Lets not even get started on picture messaging - what an easy way for you to play yourself! I hold that in the same regard that I hold homemade sex tapes - just don't do it if you don't truly know or trust the person you're sending it to. Or else you can end up like Prodigy on that Summer Jam screen (Hov!) - embarrassed and pissed off because a pic you never thought would surface is now laid bare (most times on the world wide web) for all to see. Besides...isn't it better for someone to see you and your body parts up close & personal anyways??

That, ultimately, is the true problem with all this new, wonderful technology - its made dating so cold. So impersonal. Either you're jumping into something too fast because you feel like you know them (from either google or their myspace/facebook or their twits on twitter) or you're being confuddled by a confusing message...or both. And its made dating even harder, even more I beg all of you - no matter how you meet a person, whether electronically or in person, after that 1st initial meeting, if they don't call you - let it go and move on. Call it cold or wrong, but they will call you. Which is exactly the point I'm trying to make.

Soundtrack of My Life:
Call Me ~ Tweet
Talk to Em ~ Young Jeezy
Say f/T-Pain ~ Timbaland
Talkin to Me ~ Amerie


Tuesday, January 20, 2009

Her Name is....Black Barbie..

Hmmm..first impressions are very important, so I want to welcome all of you correctly to my world. Hi *waves*, I'm Black Barbie and I don't know how to truly start this, so I'll start first explaining the name. Trust, it's not on any pretentious or conceited shit. Well, obviously, I'm black. African American..whatever term floats your boat..And I'm damn proud of it too! So if you have a problem with black people, black culture, black music, black diamonds or anything black in particular or general - OBVIOUSLY, this blog isn't for you. K.I.M. (Keep it Moving) homie - you don't start none, won't be none. *wink* And the "Barbie" part? Well, its a nickname from numerous men & women in my life who claim that I regularly doll myself up (even if I have nowhere to go). *shrugs shoulders* Hey, I'm just ME. I like glamour, I like the EXTRA-NESS of being me..hell, even the stripperish qualities I the hair (weave), the nails, the clothes, the high heels, the cleavage..its all ME, organically and naturally and I LUV every bit of it. I hope that you will too..and if you don't? Two tears in a bucket, folk, because your validation is neither desired nor required 'round these parts.

So now, I'm sure that you're wondering..why does this chick even have a blog, if it's not to see how many people will agree with her and/or hang onto her every word? Well..i'm blogging because #1) I love to write. Always have, always will. I was 7 when I kept my 1st diary and while I don't have one now, I still continue to write - text and blackberry messages, preferably. (Besides, I am just a smidge witty, if I do say so I'll never claim to be the best, but I'll always be honest - raw & uncut is how I'll give it to you, because its the only way I know how. Besides, I'm giving you insight into my world and how I think - we all have a voice - and I've decided to use mine.

Another reason I'm starting this is because I haven't come across a blog that talks about life, love, sex, relationships & money from my perspective. I am, admittedly, a product of hip hop, and an unabashed music lover to my core. I was a teenager in the mid 90's, which were arguably one of the best & most creative times in hip hop. The culture (the music, the fashion, the drama, its growing pains & its ideals) have influenced so much of who I am today. The music is me, so much a part of me, that I'm incorporating it into this blog. Every post will have songs from hip hop and r&b that correspond to it directly. Maybe I'll introduce you to an artist you've never heard before, or jog your memory to a song you forgot about. Either way, you'll be introduced to the soundtrack of my life - which has a lot of Jay-Z, Jeezy, Nas, TIP, Faith Evans, Mary J. Blige and countless others in its reserves.

So, this is me and my perspective. A blog from a 27 year old, black, fly ass chick that is a high school graduate with a lil bit of college experience under her belt. A mother, a daughter, a sister, a friend and every once in awhile - a very sexual being. I'm only human, I'm not perfect and I'll never claim to be. But I'm real and I'm a good person, which is what matters in life. Strap yourself may be a bumpy ride, but I promise you it'll be a fun one. An honest look at the world from my view. I hope that you enjoy..

Soundtrack of My Life:
Aint I (Remix) ~ Yung LA f/Young Dro & T.I.
My Life ~ Mary J. Blige
Can I Live ~ Jay-Z
Motivation ~ T.I.
Soundtrack of My Life ~ Deemi


About This Blog

This blog is meant to entertain.
To make you shake your head in agreement (or disagreement). To make you laugh, cry, and share with your friends.

Its not meant to offend, so if I do so at any moment, I apologize in advance.

This is just me - my ramblings, my thoughts, my life (or as much of my life as I'm going to give to the world wide web)..

"It is what it is, and what it isn't, it shall never be" ~ Me


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